Both a blessing and a curse, water exists as a life-giving resource or a potential deadly force—in the form of floods, monsoons, and hurricanes. The universality of hydrogen dioxide always is a great example to compare the stresses and storms of life against. Summer vacation does not always seem like a retreat especially as a father of three young children. Over the past week, my family traveled to a local state park and camped in a cabin, visited our municipal zoo, and went to a children’s museum. While on paper that seems a recipe for a smooth, carefree, and memorable family experience, the reality with having children with special needs do not necessarily match this ideal.
The power-struggle of putting our
four-year old toddler to bed each night combined with daily challenges adapting
to two sons on the autism spectrum needs to be frequently prepared for change
led to lassitude. Mere fatigue does not adequately capture my wife and I’s
emotional, physical, and mental state. In fact, my energy was zapped from me
and it felt like we withstood—ONLY by a great miracle—a tsunami of tiredness!
Precisely how did I live through the
most recent storm of life? Reflecting on the course of the past week, I
realized some important ways to survive, or stay afloat, maelstroms of life.
The Rock We May Cling To
According to Matthew
11:28, Jesus said, “Come
to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will
give you rest.” The Old Testament also speaks of entrusting your concerns,
weariness, and anxieties with the Lord. Isaiah 40:31 describes this, “But those
who trust in the LORD will find new strength. They will soar high on wings like
eagles. They will run and not grow weary. They will walk and not faint.”
Moreover, the Psalmist describes God as a bastion to remain safe: “But the LORD
is my fortress; my God is the mighty rock where I hide” (Psalm
What I find interesting is the description
of God as a mighty rock as a place for us to hide. Amid stressful
situations it may seem like a copout to go into hiding while the storm passes.
However, hiding is not the same as fleeing.
As a parent, I go into brief periods
of hiding [into another room or even outside] when the noise, raucous, and
whining of my children compound on each other. Taking a five minute break in
the form of “hiding” into another room or at least seeking “hiding” through
prayer is actually a healthy thing that makes the difference to me parental
mindset. Frankly, I need to utilize opportunities to “hide” or cling to the
rock of Our Lord much more often that I do currently!
Mary—Model to Mirror
Along with the stalwart strength God
affords us during the stormy seas of life, looking to the Blessed Virgin Mary
as a role model to emulate is another way that I stay afloat during bouts of
exhaustion. My family’s favorite appellation for Mary is Star of the Sea. In
fact, through this devotion of Stella Maris [Latin for Star of the Sea]
that my wife’s faith as. Convert to Catholicism deepened!
A nautical theme exists in our living room and bedroom with the walls decorated with anchors. These aquatic ballasts symbolize the ability to be anchored in the Lord and experience security continual turmoil of daily stresses. As the supreme role model for humanity, the Blessed Mother of God shows us that obedience to God is possible.
Guided back to Shore
My personal favorite quote about Mary’s guidance comes from St. Thomas Aquinas. According to the Doctor of the Church, “As mariners are guided into port by the shining of a star, so Christians are guided to heaven by Mary” Another sainted doctor, Francis de Sales, provides incredibly powerful words to describe Mary’s intercessory influence, “Let us run to her, and, as her little children, cast ourselves into her arms with a perfect confidence.”
Ready, Set, and Prepare for the Next
Together with reliance on God and
looking to Mary as a human role model, being prepared is absolutely essential
for withstanding a current maelstrom you may be experiencing and for weathering
future flurries. According to St. Josemaria Escriva, “Discouragement
is the enemy of your perseverance. If you don’t fight against discouragement,
you will become pessimistic first and lukewarm afterward. Be an optimist (The
Way, no. 988“
Prepare yourself with seeing trials that come into your life as an opportunity to learn and grow instead of being a burden drown you in a sea of depression. I honestly did not realize that the Spanish saint’s feast day was today until I noticed a post from in a Catholic group I follow on Facebook.
Even as I am writing now I struggle with physical stamina and mental mettle to complete this post. Suddenly, looking at an underlined passage that begins the chapter entitled Perseverance—I pause and realize that preparation does pay off! St. Josemaria reminded me, “To begin is for everyone, to persevere is for saints” (The Way, no. 983).
Without God’s previous preparation and my cooperation in that through my learning about the wisdom of St. Josemaria Escriva, there conclusion to this post would be a little rocky [no pun intended!]. I am always willing to seek the advice of the spiritual giants who came before me. I always desire to seek an opportunity to better myself.
Go Out to Sea of the World with God’s Grace
While I failed to exit the most recent life-storm unscathed and with grace [both my wife and kids know that I lost my patience many times and pledge to be a better husband and father], my reliance on God as a rock of strength, Mary as a guide, and the rest of the saints as models to emulate I will be better provided to stay afloat with the next tsunami of tiredness hits. I pray that you find this read helpful and stay afloat with me using these tips during your storm(s) of life as well!